There is a difference between having healthy expectations and expecting your partner to meet every emotional need you have.
Your partner is not responsible for your entire happiness.
You still need your own identity, friendships, purpose, financial goals, interests and personal growth.
Healthy relationships aren't about two incomplete people desperately trying to complete each other.
They're about two individuals who are willing to build something healthy together. So yes, have standards. But also develop yourself.
Learn how to communicate.
Learn how to manage money.
Learn how to regulate your emotions.
Learn how to set boundaries.
Learn how to apologies.
Learn how to listen.
Learn how to disagree without destroying each other.
Because sometimes the question isn't: “Why can't my partner give me what I need?”
Sometimes the question is: “
Am I also becoming the kind of partner I want to have?”
That's where real growth begins.